Sugar Relationship = Prostitution?

10 Jun

This is probably the most common question (and assumption) made in regard to the sugar relationship. Is it a watered-down, glorified version of prostitution?

The answer: yes and no and everything in between.

Truth is, anything in this world involving human relationships is not black or white, yes or no. We humans, we’re pretty complex. And when we get together, our individual complexities determine the dynamic of the relationship that occurs.

Take for example, a very common relationship: friendship. The dictionary defines friendship as “a relationship between friends.” What this relationship consists of varies greatly depending on the quality of the individuals involved.

People obviously have different definitions for friendship. Some consider friends to be people who provide generous emotional and social support. Some consider friends to be those who provide ample networking and ladder-climbing opportunities. Some consider friends to be those who mirror and reinforce their own self-image in the public eye. And so on and so on.

Whereas typically, society associates friendship with caring and support, anyone who has lived among people know that the actual relationship depends on the people involved, leading to neologisms such as “frenemies” and “friends-with-benefits.”

A more accurate example of the importance of the people involved in a relationship is the institution of marriage. In some marriages, the wife stays home while the husband provides for all her material needs. She may or may not do household work or raise the kids, depending on her husband’s level of income. Some see this as a socially-sanctioned form of prostitution. In some marriages, the wife is entirely beholden to the husband’s will. While sanctioned by some societies, this could be seen as a thinly-veiled form of slavery.

Anyway, my point is that relationships are complicated and the actual substance of a relationship depends not on the label by which it is called, but the dynamic and the motivations of the people involved in it.

If a sugar daddy is purely in want of sex and a sugar baby who is purely in want of money – this is prostitution.

If a sugar daddy wants a relationship that has all the comforts of an actual relationship (support, attraction, care, interest, affection) and the sugar baby is willing to provide all this without the obligations and time investment she would typically require for a guy  – it is a convenience-based arrangement.

If a sugar daddy wants the recognition and confidence boost that the attentions of attractive, younger women provide and a sugar baby wants to live the lifestyle that a older, wealthy man can provide – it’s a mutually beneficial relationship.

Obviously, there are as many variations of sugar relationships as there are people who are engaged in them. These relationships span the range from prostitution to a real relationship and ultimately, it’s the people in the relationship that determine which side of the spectrum they want to be on.

So, how do you know what sort of sugar relationship you want to be in? You start with what you want.


SugarGranddaddy Roberto Cavalli Treats Young Model To The Yacht Life

19 May

Okay, when I saw this…my immediate thought was “nice yacht…oh, never mind.”
And I had to ask all the sugar babies out there: how far would you go for sugar?
I mean, I like gifts and allowance and all that and I’m sure Cavalli can provide all that and more, but hey – there are other guys who can too that are easier to be with, no?

10 Songs for the Perfect Make-Out Sesh

19 May

I love making out. Just enjoying the sensation of a man’s lips on my own. Hands everywhere – firm, light, brushing, groping. No thoughts at all. Just lips and hands. Totally in the present.
And of course, music makes everything better.

New York Entrepreneur Redefines the Term Sugar Daddy

30 Apr

Good for Alan Shneider. It’s awesome that more sugar daddies are coming out and expanding the public’s idea of who can be a sugar daddy and the forms that a sugar relationship can take. Seriously, the public is mostly so ill-informed about this hugely growing phenomenon and whereas we don’t necessarily need their respect or approval, it’d be cool if people understood that people simply have different preferences and ways of living and even forming relationships.

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NY entrepreneur and gentleman about town Alan “Action” Schneider unashamedly embraces the term Sugar Daddy.

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NY entrepreneur and gentleman about town Alan “Action” Schneider unashamedly embraces the term Sugar Daddy. “With the economy in the condition it is in, women are gravitating to the traditional relationship where the man is the provider,” says Mr. Schneider. “Many women appreciate men who extend to them mentorship, chivalry, attention, and financial and emotional assistance. Throughout history and up to the current day, these relationships simply work. Despite the dim view that some may have of sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships, their numbers are increasing rapidly and are resulting in a new generation of non-traditional as well as traditional relationships.”

Mr. Schneider has thrown more and larger Sugar Daddy parties than anyone on the planet. The 49 year old single parent passionately defends…

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Into the Mind of a Fake Sugar Daddy

16 Apr

Ah, the fake sugar daddy. The most despised creature by all sugar babies around the world Well, it turns out he has a blog. And on it – he shares some of his most intimate secrets, basically a how-to guide for aspiring fake sugar daddies.

Here’s a snippet from the Fake Sugar Daddy:

I have a few rules for a Fake Sugar Daddy, these are to keep you safe(r) from blackmail, extremely awkward situations, and to ensure you have a great time!

  • Create new accounts specifically for this.
    • I recommend Gmail for email and GTalk
    • Yahoo for their IM although 18-21 year old women don’t seem to IM as much anymore
    • Skype
    • Google Voice account and number, don’t give out your real number!  Only give out your new Google Voice number.
    • Make sure the accounts can’t be traced back to you easily.  This means don’t register with your real first and last names.  First name is ok if it’s a common first name, but you don’t want these women looking you up on Facebook or even worse showing up at your door to “surprise you”.
  • Don’t tell anyone where you live.
    • If you live in a small town or smaller city register on the websites as living near a larger city.  Then you can tell them later that you live in a suburb that’s easier for you to get to and just say you said you lived in the city “because no one from out of town knows where that is”  This will make you easier to find on the Sugar Daddy websites and harder to find if you happen upon a psycho.
    • If you already live in the bigger city register as living in the city just don’t tell anyone what area.  Be vague!
    • I’ve never once had anyone ask me to be specific about where I live so don’t worry too much about it.
  • Don’t put you face up on a Sugar Daddy website
    • Blur your pic, black bar your eyes, anything.  A lot of those sites use member pics in their ads, that could be tough to explain to friends and family later.

A lot of the sugar daddy websites are already flooded with these fake sugar daddies using potential sugar babies for sex so the chances of you running into one during your search is pretty high. Make sure you’re prepared to deal with fake sugar daddies by doing a diligent check on his background – seriously, Google everything. In case you want a list of tips on keeping yourself safe from these con artists, this is one of the best articles I’ve found.

The gist of it is…do all the research you possibly can. And, as every successful sugar baby knows: nobody is your sugar daddy until you’ve gotten an allowance. If he behaves like one, demands anything of you, or even so much as expects anything – tell him to take a hike. He ain’t a sugar daddy ’til he’s giving you sugar.

Sugar Baby Rules: Act Like a Woman, Think Like a Man

5 Apr

I don’t know who the original voice behind this quote is, but I have to say – they were dead on.

Throughout my year of being a sugar baby, this was one of the most important rules to follow. Men in general tend to like feminine women – they like grace, they love softness, playful coquetry will leave them eating out of your hands.

The downside is that femininity often gets walked on. Even the most feminine women need to have a trace of “masculinity” in them.

Remember that when I talk about femininity and masculinity here, I’m referring mostly to the stereotypical traits and behaviors usually associated with these two gender characteristics.

I found that in sugar dating – and in dating as well – it helps to be a woman who knows how to think like a man. In appearances, gestures, and mannerisms, feminism is key. I keep my hair long, soft, and wavy. I don’t wear too much make up. I dress like a woman. I smile when I speak. I put a lot of weight in flowy hand gestures. I color my sentences with pretty adjectives. I don’t cuss.

But there’s a masculine aspect to me and one that I nurture just as well. I am constantly developing my own opinions. Whatever the topic is – I have an opinion on it. I won’t go so far as to voice my opinions on anything and everything, but you can rest assured that if you ask – I’ll have something to tell you, with a smile, of course.

I also nurture my assertiveness. This is one of the main difference between men and women, even today. Men ask for what they want. They don’t really go into complicating calculations of whether they deserve it or not. They just go for it. I think one of the biggest differences between men and women is that women underestimate themselves and therefore don’t dare to ask for what they want whereas men overestimate themselves and will easily ask for what they want (since they think they more than deserve it).

Being a soft, feminine women who can come right out and ask for exactly what she wants is sheer power. Use it!

Lastly, one of the most helpful masculine traits I am still growing in myself is this: Don’t think.

I know this is a bit stereotypical, but it’s kinda true. Men don’t really think. They apply their brains when it’s really necessary but they don’t spend a lot of time analyzing little questions like, “Is she losing interest in me?” “What if I messed that up?” “OMG, did I hurt her feelings?”

It’s usually us women who spend a lot of our valuable mental resources fretting over ridiculous hypothetical questions like those above. Practice just letting it go, keeping your mental space clear of that crappy clutter and concentrating your mental prowess in simply…getting. what. you. want.

How to Grow Natural Breasts

24 Nov

So, I’ve been on this kick to develop a curvier figure for a few months now. I’ve always been pretty satisfied with my body, but I want an AWESOME figure now.

What I have been doing is researching natural breast enhancement methods. I looked into several options for how to grow my breasts naturally and found 2 options.

One option is something called glandular therapy, which uses cow ovaries to introduce a sort of second puberty to my body. This sounded like a great option for me, since I’m almost POSITIVE that I missed out on a lot of growth during my puberty years. But, after reading more about it, I realized that I’m not a good candidate. My body temperature has always been low and I don’t think the pills will work for me.

So, I’ve decided to go with the other option – Pueraria Mirifica. It’s supposed to be a wonder plant of sorts. It supposedly has tons of phytoestrogenic content and because it’s a plant extract, I feel much safer taking it.

Well, I’ve ordered some and plan to start soon. Will keep this updated. Image